The start of a marital union is blissful and satisfying. Your heart desires to be with your beloved all the time. Perhaps you wanted the honeymoon phase to be never-ending. Life is not a fairytale and we’re not Drew Barrymore and Adam Sandler from 50 First Dates. The woman suffers from a memory loss problem but her lover reminds her every day that she is married to him.
All these stories look good in movies but real life is quite the contrary. There are some husbands who start ignoring their wives for odd reasons.
Maybe some couples are madly in love with each other and they spend a lot of time together. But we also have husbands who torture their wives by giving silent treatment.
Marriage does not come with a guarantee that both people will love each other till the day they die. All marriages have problems but some people stick with each other through thick and thin. Others choose to ignore their partner and live a separate life. As the woman in the relationship, you are wondering why he is doing that.
We can think of plenty of reasons behind this and that’s why we would like to share it with you through this article.
Why is your husband ignoring you?
There is no excuse for bad behavior. You are his wife and he should be willing to talk about problems. If he did not like something you did, he should communicate instead of ignoring you.
Nonetheless, we must figure out the reason why he is treating you like a ghost. If you live in the same house, it can be heartbreaking to NOT talk to your partner.
1. Need for personal space
Your husband may be going through something really traumatizing at work. Some people go silent and others choose to vent out. Maybe he belongs to the first category.
So, try and speak to him and convey that you are with him. Also, do not push if he does not want to share what is going on in his head. Some people need personal space and they feel that sharing it with you might not help.
It is possible that your man doesn’t want to hurt you or wants to figure out a solution by himself.
2. He doesn’t love you anymore
Ouch! Yes, that hurts and you can’t do much about this. If your man is out of love, you should consider leaving him and starting a new life. It is easier said than done but there is no point in being in a loveless marriage.
Maybe he found another woman to love. In this case, he should tell you about it and not ignore you. These are things that you should be aware of. After all, you are his wife and if he doesn’t love you, he should make it clear.
3. Your man is depressed
The whole world is talking about mental health but we never try to find out what goes on in the minds of our people. Is he depressed about something?
Since his brain is preoccupied with stressful thoughts, he may be ignoring you. Instead of probing, consider getting help. A psychiatrist can help you in this situation.
If your man is dealing with anxiety, depression, or ADHD, you must help him out. You must remember that some people talk about it and others choose to stay silent.
4. Intimacy is a concern
The sex is monotonous and he doesn’t feel the connection. In fact, sex plays a big role in strengthening a relationship. Also, most men choose to find it elsewhere if the woman is not able to satisfy them. On second thoughts, a man should make as much effort to satisfy a woman.
That’s a separate topic we would love to talk about. If this relationship means a lot to you, try some different sexual positions to change his mind.
Men are crazy about women going down on them. They are visual creatures too. Perhaps wear something sexy and try to seduce him.
Please note that life is not just about seducing the man but if it matters to you, then you must do something to light up your sex life.
5. He is angry and frustrated
Some people hide their anger by going silent. Well, it’s a good thing that your man is not abusing you verbally or physically. If he chooses to ignore because he is angry or frustrated, it is best to give him some space and let him be. As a partner, you need to understand that your man could be going through something terrible. He will share it with you sooner or later, but till then you have to support him.
6. There is too much work to do
Your man has a lot of work on his table. Remember that most men are running their families and have a lot of pressure to earn and raise the kids. Consequently, if the work is keeping him busy, ask him whether he is overworked. Marriage is about partnership so you should be aware of your partner’s ups and downs.
In case the man is tired because of work, give him some time to get back. Perhaps he is expecting some understanding from you.
7. He cheated on you!
When a man cheats on you, he is not able to look you in the eye. If that’s the case, then you must sense the guilt in his eyes and voice.
Clearly, the man is not able to face you because he committed a big mistake. But this is just an idea and it’s not the truth in all cases. So, think about that twice before you conclude.
Summing up
The instant thought that came to our head after reading this subject is that men should clear things and put an end to the awkwardness. A woman can be very patient and stick with you through thick and thin. But you can’t leave her hanging in the middle.
Try to find out what is bothering your man. As a wife, you have the right to ask what is going on. If he tells you the reason, you must respect it and ask him if he wants to discuss it further.
In case he is ignoring you because you are not good-looking to him or he does not feel for you anymore, then it’s time to rethink whether you want to be in this relationship or not.
